這是修讀課程前要提交的自我表述:
Ever
since I have become a mum 11 years ago, my life is never like it used to be
before. I suddenly realised I held
responsible for another person’s life and start to find out if there are some
certain formula which can teach me to be a perfect mum.
After
reading tonnes of reference books from “What to expect when you’re expecting”, “how
to talk so your kids will listen”, to attending child psychology courses and
many other talks and seminars, I find that there is no one single success
formula to parenting. Each kid is unique, especially after my son was born 3
years later. I have only come to a brief
conclusion that there is no perfect mum and no single successful formula , yet
the only universal rule is we as parent must be mindful and change our own thinking
in the first place.
Kids
come to our world as a piece of blank paper and parent is their first teacher,
first influencer to help them paint their life.
My previous training in NLP and hypnosis have shown that lots of
psychological disorders or depressions are hugely related to unpleasant
childhood experiences and even relationships with ones’ own parents. Hence, I started to think if we would like to
correct a child’s problem, we should start with the parent first. And I have
developed an interest in topics regarding parenting.
I’ve
been trying to apply some of this skills and theories into my own
parenting. I would say so far so good as
I’ve a supportive husband who on the same page with me on parenting. Both of us agree that as parent we couldn’t
force our kids to do what we make them to, and we don’t own their life. Each person is an independent life and they
have their own life purpose to fulfil.
Being their parent, our role is not to plan their life but rather be
standing by their side to guide them, to encourage and help them realise their
dreams. But I still don’t know how to do
it right. This has made me to come to check out “parent coaching” cos’ it
should be able to equip me with the
tools in applying our beliefs. This is
one of the calling for me to do the course.
On the
other hand, it has always been on my mind to change to a second career. I am
lucky that my current job allows me to work from home
if required. It suited me well as my
priority is on my kids instead of career and I am not at all an ambitious type
to climb up to the top in the corporate world. But in recent years, I’ve come
to a point of pursuing something else that could be more fulfilling.
Counselling or education is kind of the areas which I’ve
considered for my next career move, but I have hesitated in doing it all over
again by doing a post-graduate diploma. I’ve taken courses in NLP and hypnotherapy,
but I found my interest still lies in its application to kids. Then I come across “parent coaching” and I
believe it must be a good starting point for me. I will be thrilled to be doing something that
can help like-minded parents and in a way they can raise positive kids, who
will be the future backbone of the society.
I’m only
hoping that I will be able to take away with a systematic approach to facilitate
my kids. If it works for them and I feel confidence in myself that I couldn’t
wait to share this with parents around, I will be looking forward to pursue my
career as a “parent coach” in the near future.
